Ask Dr. R: 5 year marriage ruined by painful sex
For almost 5 years now I’ve only had sex with my husband about 4 times due to very painful sex. I’ve tried physical therapy, estrogen treatments, and dilators. I’m at my wits end. I don’t know who to go to or talk to about this since it is a very sensitive subject. It is almost impossible for him to get the head of his penis inside my vagina. Is there a way to loosen a vagina? Please help. Thank you.
From Dr. R:
Pain with sex can be caused by several conditions – vestibuilitis, endometriosis, spasm of the pelvic muscles, congenital defects of the vagina, urethra or bladder, and poorly healed scars from childbirth, among others. One of the best doctors I know of for sexual pain is Dr. Andrew Goldstein, Andrew Goldstein, MD, Vestibulitis Specialist. A consultation with a gynecologist, physiatrist or pelvic floor physical therapist who specialises in vestibulitits will be a good start on the road to a normal, pain-free sex life.