Masturbation, Onanism and Perils of Cybersex Pornography Addiction

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Masturbation

When it comes to sexual pleasure, masturbation can both help and hurt your sexual satisfaction. For those of you uncertain exactly what masturbation entails,  masturbation is the term for genital self-stimulation.

The downside of masturbation? Reaching orgasm through masturbation can make orgasm difficult to achieve with a partner.

Men can develop what is called “delayed ejaculation”, where it’s difficult — or even impossible — to orgasm during partner sex because he’s man-handled himself to the point where orgasm occurs only through the EXACT pressure, friction and rhythm from his own hand, something a partner’s hand, mouth, vagina or anus simply cannot replicate. Further, the instant gratification from masturbating can be so appealing that one loses interest in sex with a partner.

Sex Addiction & Pornography

Internet-fueled pornography addiction lends a modern day wrinkle to the ramifications of masturbation, where men (usually) become so acclimated to the variety and instant, rapid fire gratification potential of online pornography that they become sexual anorexics when it comes to real-time sex with a real live woman. How sad! There’s even a website devoted to this social blight: Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center that offers help for porn-addiction and related issues. Porn masturbation sex addiction is ruining relationships with such voraciousness that the courts are clogged with the detritus of porn-rocked marriages suffering from cybersex addicted spouses.

Women run the risk of developing their own version of “delayed ejaculation” finding themselves in a similar predicament where orgasm is possible only through genital self-stimulation, without which anorgasmia takes over, making partner-sex, well, “anti-climatic”….

Onanism

Traditionally reviled in Judeo-Christian societies, ejaculating outside of the reproductive parts of a woman was a mortal sin for which Onan, second son of Judah, was struck dead prematurely by Yahweh Himself for “spilling his seed upon the ground”. References to the evil and inevitable effects of “Onanism” in Victorian-era health manuals included cerebral palsy (they had a different name for it back then), mental retardation and birth defects of all varieties, not to mention insanity and infertility in the afflicted self-abusers. Oye!

The upside of masturbation (beyond male hydraulics)? Contemporary sex science shows that masturbation can help men control orgasm and avoid premature ejaculation, –and can help both men and women feel more confident about sexuality by allowing you to discover the variety of maneuvers your partner finds advantageous.

The moral (don’t act like you didn’t see this coming) of the masturbation story? Use it, don’t abuse it.

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