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(c) 2010 Lauri Romanzi

For the latest on vaginal dryness in your 40’s and beyond,  enjoy this guest-blogger interview with PHIT’s medical director from  Sweet Talk on the Spot. I’m talking user-friendly vaginal estrogens, over-the-counter lubricants, kitchen myths and the latest from Europe.

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Dr. Romanzi Talks Lubrication After 40Wednesday, April 21, 2010 by SweetTalk on the Spot

Our resident Vaginal Phitness expert, Dr. Lauri Romanzi, educates the SweetTalk community with answers to your most pressing, personal questions.

Q: Dear Dr. Romanzi, Why do women experience pronounced vaginal dryness after 40, and what lubricants do you recommend for women over 40?

A: Aaaah, the Magic of Estrogen.

First, a little background: Before puberty, estrogen levels in girls circulate at a tiny fraction of normal adult levels. At puberty, the ovaries start cranking out estrogen to full – range, grown woman levels, and stay that way til about age 35, when the slippery slope toward menopause goes gently into first gear.

By age 40-45, fertility, skin integrity, bone density, cardiovascular resilience and even memory can be affected as the reduction in estrogen production accelerates into third gear.  For many women this “Change before the Change” is confusing, because they continue to menstruate, and may even become pregnant, as these menopausal symptoms cavort erratically around the edges of their lives. One month is “normal”, the next nutty with late menses, heavy flow or light spotting, hot flashes, night sweats, aches and pains, insomnia and mood swings in a rollercoaster of unpredictability that heralds the life cycle book-end mate to the process of puberty. My New York City colleague, Dr. Laura Corio, coined this phrase, “The Change Before The Change”, and used it as the title of her book on health in the decade before menopause.

Regarding vaginal dryness and lubrication: The vulva, vagina, clitoris and lower urinary tract skin surfaces contain a high density of estrogen receptors, and as these receptors undergo peri-menopausal deprivation in the early to mid-40’s, many women report uro-genital symptoms.  In the vagina, these may include dryness, poor spontaneous sexual lubrication, reduced clitoral sensitivity, difficulty achieving orgasm, and muted orgasm intensity. And here’s the ironic truth – overweight women tend to fare better because body fat makes its own estrogen, called estrone, that, when present in high levels, minimizes the impact of reduced ovarian estrogen production, called estradiol. Skinny women make very little estrone, overweight women make a lot of estrone. Both skinny and overweight women’s ovaries run out of estradiol between age 35-ish and menopause.

A woman who is sensitive to reduced estrogen production in the 40’s and beyond, sex may be plagued by painful dryness that is often frustrating and confusing, both for her and her sexual partner. With reduced estrogen production, the exquisitely estrogen- sensitive skin of the vulva, vagina, and clitoris literally becomes thin, dry, and brittle. As a doctor, I’ve taken care of many women over the years in stable, happy, sexually active relationships who come in to the office utterly mystified by these symptoms, with partners convinced that the women don’t love them any more or accuse them of having an affair. so abrupt and intense can be the sexual impact of estrogen deprivation.

My favorite treatment option for hormone-related vaginal dryness is … hormones: Recoil not, as this does not mean total-body-dose (a.k.a. systemic) hormones. You can use ultra-low-dose vaginal estrogen therapy that rejuvenates the vaginal skin to youthful elasticity, sensitivity, and lubrication. It does this by making those poor, deprived estrogen receptors in the vagina, vulva and clitoris happy.  There is not enough estrogen in these local estrogen treatments to increase estrogen blood levels, and there is no evidence that they increase cancer risks, as some total-body hormone regimens might. Ultra-low-dose vaginal estrogen therapies come in cream (fingertip application), suppository (vaginal insertion) and ring (vaginal insertion 4 times per year) form.  I shared this low dose vaginal estrogen information on the Dr. Oz show a few weeks ago.

Lubricants help with dryness, but will not improve elasticity or sensitivity. The best lubricants are water soluble and paraben free. Glycerin-free lubricants are best for women who cannot tolerate this additive, and silicone based lubricants require less re-application. Lubricants contain no hormones.

Oils and herbs are purported to reduce vaginal dryness, however clinical trials thus far fail to demonstrate efficacy, and oils may throw off vaginal pH or turn rancid, ultimately causing vaginal irritation and possible increased risk of vaginitis.

Several of my European patients are using hyaluronic acid vaginal suppositories, which are not available in the U.S.  These novel vaginal ovules help maintain cellular hydration, and are marketed both for post-operation healing and menopausal dryness.  Given that these ovules contain no hormones, it is likely that this product will not improve sensitivity, but would restore lubrication and thereby improve elasticity.  Catch the red-eye to Paris and let us know if it works for you!

Back to lubricants before I finish: The shop shelves buckle under the voluminous assortment of 21^st century sexy lubricants with additives designed to improve blood flow, enhance sensitivity and super-charge orgasm intensity.  Marketing trials are not the same as scientific, clinical trials published in peer-reviewed medical journals, and it is not clear that the robust marketing claims are born out in the bedroom. That said, if these pumped-up lubricants rock your world, are paraben free and water soluble, have at it!

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Dear Dr. I was reading an article in the glamour magazine and came across your name. I’m 38 years old. I’ve two kids (5, 3) and married for 6 years. During these years, I had orgasm only one time with my husband. I have other problems going on in life too. But part of the reason is that my husband can tell that I don’t have orgasms. I never had sex before so when I got married at the age of 30, you could tell I was lost. My marriage is in the verge of breaking up. I used machine (rabbit) and it works. I just don’t understand why it won’t work with my husband. He said every girl he had sex before had orgasms, except for me. I do know that he doesn’t foreplay, all he wants is sex. And I don’t enjoy it like that. He knows that women like cuddling but still he won’t do that to me. What can I do? How can I improve myself?

Hello Distressed,
Many women (most women) need foreplay to fully enjoy sex and to achieve orgasm. Your husband’s premarital record of routine female orgasms without foreplay is remarkable, unusual and almost unbelievable.
Your relationship would benefit from couples counseling with a board certified psychiatrist or psychologist specializing in sexual function.
This is not a problem about YOU. It is a problem about your relationship and conflicting expectations between yourself and your husband. If your husband won’t go, you will benefit from going alone.
Best Regards,
Dr R